HOW TO DEAL WITH TEENAGER

Adolescence is another stage of life. Expect the changes of your child's attitude and behavior.  

As a mother of a 14 year old boy, I had noticed a gradual change in his behavior and attitude, the way he reason out and handle things, the way he talk  and more. In order us to  understand them there are tips on how to deal our teenagers.

1. Change Your Expectation:
 Study shows that frontal cortex of the brain does not completely develop until we reach 20, this part of our brain use for reasoning, discussion and controlling impulse. This is the critical stage for teenagers. That's why we expect them to somewhat out of control.

2. Analyze the Behavior and Stop Treating them with Suspicion: 

   We noticed their change, when we tell something they well not follow, sometimes they are moody, easily get angry and keeps irritating other people, we stop treating them with suspicion on their behavior because they are dealing with their fear. The best we can do is give them unconditional love and acceptance to boost their confidence and overcome their fear.

3. Be Specific And Develop Empathy:

    Some of us find it difficult to understand the changes.  The best way is to consider ourselves on their side, at his point of their life the need more understanding, they need our moral support  by way of listening and giving empathy.

4. Establish Conversation:

    Always give time for an open conversation. Let them know and feel comfortable so that they will not hesitate in telling you what was on their mind. Make yourself as her/his best friend.

5. Give Them Trust and Boundaries:
     Don't hold your child on the neck, give them trust and freedom on what they are going to do, you are only there to remind and giving them limitations on that way they develop confidence.

6. Give Them Honor and Respect:

    Constant screaming on them will damage their emotion that leads them to insecurity. Respect their opinion and try to involve in their activity, give interest on what they do. And you will establish a life long relationship.

 The key word is be  friend to your teenagers...




"Adolescence represents an inner emotional upheaval, a struggle between the eternal human wish to cling to the past and the equally powerful wish to get on with the future."

Louise J. Kaplan

HOW TO BECOME A GOOD PARENT

Being  a parent is not and easy task.. However become a good parent is challenging, although we cannot really define or  give definition for it. But there are ways to become a good parent that insures our child's happiness.

Good parenting required hard work and great understanding because not all children are the same in behavior. Therefore different children needs different approach you cannot apply the same level of attention to all of them, you must see to it that you can give what is best and suited for that certain behavior.

 So to be effective and become a good parent we must considered some parenting tips

A Child is a Privilege: This child is a bundle of joy and given by god to you, you have the chance to nurture and support them, they are given to you to take care.

True Love: Sometimes people misunderstand the word love, not just you love your children you will give always what they ask. But only give what is needed and best for them.

Let Them Be: Let them become what they want, not that you want for them. Let them do something that make them better you are only there to guide.

There's  No Hurry To Grow Up: Let them enjoy as a child, never get hurry to grow up because being a child has no reverse.

Children's Are Naturally Spiritual: Children has possibly close  spiritually if they are not interfere with bad society .

Its Time To Learn Not To teach: When the child come, it's time to learn not to teach, Let them learn about life,  you can give only some tricks for  them to survive.

Provide A Supporting and loving Atmosphere: Don't set or share to them bad  experiences , anxiety and fear because they will not enjoy life,  instead create to them a loving and happy atmosphere.

Avoid Seeking Respect: Love is what you seek for your children,  don't ask them to respect you  

Maintain A Friendly Relationship: Stop yourself acting like a boss instead create a strong friendship between. Put yourself below the child so that it is easy  for them  to talk to you.

Make Yourself Truly Attractive: Child maybe influenced by so many thing around the environment such as TV, Computers' neighbors school and so many things, and they will find them   attractive. As a parent you must set or make yourself more attractive in a way that they find the most attractive thing is to be with a family, if you are wonderful and joyous parent they will not seek company from anywhere else, they can only come to you.

If we parents are seriously interested to make and give our  children good upbringing , we should check and correct ourselves to be a  loving person because in love things go smoothly.

THE ESSENCE OF A WOMAN

What is the essence of a woman? This question was
ask several times in different situation on a different person.  I still remember this is the final question of Miss Universe  SUSHMITA SEN of INDIA way back 1994.

"It is said that the origin of a child is a mother, and is a woman. Woman shows a man what sharing, caring,and loving is all about.

"A woman is a gift to a man and is a gift to the world, a woman is not just wearing  skirt and sexy dresses and precious jewelries, but she is a protector, a fighter and a good provider.

There are many discussions of what really the essence of a woman and the views and opinion  differs, however it is consist of a good quality of women. Some describe that a women are stronger than a men, not to disrespect men but maybe on emotional aspect not on physical, others say that she is the source of love, compassion, sincerity,sacrificing,patience, attention and care.

The essence of being a woman is becoming a mother, conceiving and giving birth to a child is very fulfilling experience any woman can go through the door of motherhood.

The beauty and femininity  captivate, nourish and inspire not by being beautiful but the beauty itself inside out. The characteristic of a woman simplify of what really a woman for herself, to man and to the world.

Therefore women should be protected, love and taking care of because it is a gift from God to all of us